Where's The Grief?

Death is an inevitable part of life, and yet it can be difficult and uncomfortable to talk about the process of grief amongst one's peers. This podcast helps shine some light into the darkest parts of our own existence and encourage a more open discussion about the effects of grief, and offers coping mechanisms to those suffering.
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Where's the Grief?

A podcast focused on grief and loss hosted by Jordon Ferber

On the whole, many cultures do not teach us how to effectively deal with the feelings that come up when a loved one dies. 

The goal of this podcast is to acknowledge the reality of intense grief , which can be a very isolating experience, and normalize the conversation about it that is very often difficult to have with friends and even family.


Jordon Ferber, a bereaved sibling himself, gives people who have experienced intense loss permission to talk about it and exemplify the possibility of  making it through the darkest periods of grief to a life full of hope and happiness.


Feb 20, 2019

In this episode, I sat down with comedian Samantha Bednarz to talk about a wide array of losses, from godparents to siblings, Samatha has been through the wringer. We talk about what it's like to be a reluctant death-whisperer, and how cathartic it can be to deal with dark issues on-stage.

Follow all things Samantha Here!

Follow her on Twitter @TheOGSammaJamma

Follow her on Instagram @Samantha_Bednarz

Oct 9, 2018

In this episode, I sat down with Author Daniel Kenner to talk about his new book, "Room for Grace," an oral history that deals with the life of his mother as she battled stage 4 cancer for her and a debilitating disease for her husband: life crashed down in an instant. Maureen Kenner found resilience, however, in the lessons she learned from her Special Ed students in Providence, RI. Her students lived with their hearts opened despite struggles of the highest magnitude. Through these students, Maureen gains courage, humor, and the strength of spirit to face her devastating realities, head on. Maureen’s oral history was captured by her son Daniel who tenderly wrought this book out of their recorded conversations. Through anecdotes and hard-earned lessons, Maureen tackles challenge after challenge and reframes daily struggles with a positive outlook allowing her to transcend and conquer mortal fears with dignity and room for grace.

Check out to learn more about the book!

Also make sure to follow to find further support in the face of adversity.

Sep 26, 2018

In this episode I sat down with comedian Dara Jemmott to talk about the death of her mother nearly 8 years ago to ALS. We talk about moms, dads, putting the "FUN" in funeral, as well as how long it takes to really accept the realities. We touch on aspects of grief that inform  how important it is to understand the length of the journey we are on, and about how family dynamics impact who ends up becoming a caregiver without much choice. 

Dara Hosts at Urban Vegan Kitchen Every Monday! Click here for tix to the next one!

Follow Dara on Instagram @ChocolateJem

Keep an eye out for her new podcast dropping soon, "Comedians for Hire."

Sep 11, 2018

In this episode, I sat down with comedian Lori Sommer! Lori initially reached out to me to talk about the loss of the love of her life, and as life would have it, just two weeks prior to our interview the comedy world lost one of our own -- Poppi Kramer died unexpectedly and left so many of us wondering how to move forward.

Lori and I talk about the importance of community, of looking for silver linings, and how much it means to be able to have a place to express one's feelings.

Lori performs regularly all over the city, but can often be found at the new Westside Comedy Club - Check out their upcoming events to see her.

She also performs regularly with Bon Bon Burlesque! Follow them on FB to find out more!

Aug 27, 2018

In this episode recorded at the 2018 Compassionate Friends National Conference in St. Louis, MO, Jordon sits down with Mitch Carmody,  a writer, artist, grief educator and a nationally recognized motivational speaker. He is the author of several books, and hosts his own Radio Show “Grief Chat”. He is a Grief Facilitator for the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors (T.A.P.S) of military loss, member of The Association of Death Education and Counseling (A.D.E.C.) and has served on the National Board of Directors for The Compassionate Friends, the largest grief support organization in the world.

After losing his twin sister in an accident in 1985 and then his son to cancer in 1987 Mitch has dedicated his life to serving the bereaved in any way he can.

His is truly a story of hope and perseverance.

Follow all the good that he does at

Aug 10, 2018

In this special episode, I report from the 41st National Compassionate Friends Conference in St. Louis, Missouri. 

The Compassionate Friends is an international self-help support group that provides resources and to families who have lost a child, a grandchild or a sibling. As a bereaved sibling myself, it is the national conference and my local meetings that were the most helpful part of my healing process, and ultimately spurred me to do this podcast in the first place.

This episode features conversations with Zander Sprague, Garrett McCormick and Heather Horsely.

Zander has a podcast of his own focused on sibling grief called The Lemonade Stand, as well as a book about sibling loss called "Making Lemonade." Find his podcast and his book at

Heather Horsely runs the Open To Hope Foundation with her family. Her sister Heidi and her mother Gloria are the faces of Open to Hope, but Heather also plays an integral role in producing a TV and Radio show, as well as countless articles and other resources for people dealing with loss. Go to to get the Hope YOU need.

The Compassionate Friends has local chapters all over the country, as well as a number of closed Facebook groups dedicated to specific types of loss. Go to to see if there's a chapter near you!

Jul 24, 2018

In this episode, Jordon sits down with comedian Keenan Steiner to talk about life after the death of his mother nearly 2 years ago to breast cancer.

We talk about the different coping mechanisms we use to deal with the myriad of feelings that come up after a loss, and how to ultimately be functional without being insensitive to what we conceive as minor grievances. 

Follow Keenan on IG @keenstartrillionaire

Check out all other things Keenan at his website HERE.

Jun 19, 2018

In this episode, I sat down with comedian, actor and fellow podcaster Dante Nero!

Dante has his own podcast, The Beige Phillip Show, focused on dating and relationships, but Dante and his crew talk about all aspects of life, and all types of relationships, including familial.

6 years after the death of his father and two years after the death of his mother, Dante shares his thoughts about how to reconcile his love for his parents with his animosity towards how they treated him. We talk about finding ways to be the best version of ourselves, and how important forgiveness is, even when you just give it to yourself.

Follow Dante on Instagram @TheDanteNero

Check out his podcast here!

For everything else Dante related, check his website!


May 31, 2018

In this episode, Jordon sits down with veteran comedian Ross Bennett to talk about the death of his first wife, over 30 years ago. We talk about how men are taught to deal with grief, as well as how performers harness their truths to create connections and find ways to move forward in both their lives and careers.

Ross just released his second album via Stand Up Records, "Not if You Were The Last Man on Earth."


It's also available on iTunes - Buy it on iTunes here:


Stand Up Records produces some of the best comedy albums in the biz, including several former podcast guests. Check out their whole catalogue at

Find out more about all that Ross does at

May 14, 2018

In this episode, I sat down with my good friend and comedian Danny Lobell! Danny is unquestionably one of the the original comedy podcasters, and quite possibly the reason I have this podcast myself. We talk about the loss of Danny's first love to a rare form of cancer, and the trials and tribulations that come with having to say goodbye to someone who is desperately trying to hang on. We also talk about the loss of one of Danny's best friends and mentor's, the late comedian Ralphie May.

Check out Danny's own podcast, "Modern Day Philosophers" and make sure you check out his recently released comic book, "Fair Enough."

Follow all things Danny at

Apr 23, 2018

In this episode, Jordon talks with comedian and podcaster Dan Lamorte! In advance of this taping, Dan felt that he may not have had the amount of loss usually featured on this show, but upon sitting down it seemed as though he actually had quite a bit of personal loss, despite some of it being other than close loved ones. We talk about a multitude of types of loss, from friends to extended family members, to careers, relationships, and ultimately about the loss of ones self.

Follow Dan and all that he does at

Mar 2, 2018

In this episode, I sat down to talk with comedian Stacy Kendro about the various losses that she has had in her life, and the ways in which they have brought her appreciate the life that she has.

Stacy has lost both of her parents to cancer, and both of them went out of their ways to shield her from their illnesses, giving her less than a week to process the diagnosis before they were gone.

Since then, Stacy has found ways to acknowledge their absence while still being acutely aware of their respective impacts on her life moving forward.

Follow Stacy and find out more about what shes up to at

Feb 14, 2018

In this episode, I sat down with comedian Harris Stanton. Despite dealing with a number of losses, the greatest one was that of his friend and mentor Patrice. We talk about how to move on after losing one's guide, as well as how to carry the lessons we've learned forward with us.

Additionally, we touch briefly on the car accident that Harris was involved in that left Tracy Morgan and Ardie Fuqua in coma's and Jimmy Mack dead. Harris may have walked away with but a few scratches, but he also has vivid memories of the accident and it's aftermath that have stayed with him.

Check out what Harris is up to at

Get his album "Naive Innocence" from Itunes!

Jan 26, 2018

In this episode, Jordon sits down with one of his good friends from college, Kendra, who lost her brother Scott to suicide nearly 6 years ago, while Kendra herself was 7 months pregnant with her second child.

We talk about the difficulty of overcoming the stigma in talking about suicide and mental health, and the importance of understanding that depression is a disease that we ought to stop sweeping under the rug.

We also talk about the importance of gratitude, and how appreciating what we have in front of us can help gain a perspective on what we've been through.

Kendra hosts a yearly Fundraiser called "Stand Up for Scott" to raise money for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and the Ali Forney Center.

Jan 5, 2018

Happy New Year to everyone, I wish you all a happy, healthy and prosperous 2018 . . .

In this episode I sat down with Harriet Cabelly, author of the book, "Living Well Despite Adversity."

In her book, Harriet has compiled 36 separate interviews with people from all walks of life, each of whom has been dealt an otherwise unwinnable hand and turned it into a opportunity to serve as an example to others that we can always triumph over our situation with strong choices and unwavering followthrough.

We talk about the importance of acceptance, and giving ones self permission to feel, be it joy or despair.

Find out more about Harriet at her website Rebuild Life Now

Nov 11, 2017

Jordon sits down with voice over artist Bill Ratner, known for dozens of voices you've heard before on TV and radio, yet most famous (at least to Jordon) as the voice of Flint on the popular cartoon G.I. Joe.

Before finding success as an artist and a storyteller, Bill essentially became an orphan at an early age, losing his mother at 7, his brother at 13, and his father just 3 months after that.

For over 50 years, Bill has found ways to continually strive to bask in the light, driven by the loving and supportive environment he enjoyed for far too little time.

We talk about the helpful nature of various forms of therapy, and how our loved ones find ways to reach out and continue to be a force in our lives.

Follow Bill on Twitter @BillRatner

Check him out online and find out where you can see him live!

Oct 6, 2017

In this episode, Jordon sits down with comedian Doug Hildemann, who lost his wife Kelly a little over a year ago. We talk about how difficult it is to find places to work towards moving forward, while still carrying our past with us.

To find out more about where Doug is performing, check out his FB comedy page, entitled, "Not Doug Hildemann's Comedy Page or Anything."


Sep 15, 2017

Episode 50 is here!

I'm so excited that I made it to 50 episodes, and I commemorated it by recording this show LIVE at the Zinc Bar in the West Village in NYC!

I changed up the format of the show a little bit to showcase some of my favorite prior guests who actually have material in their acts about loss, followed by a panel discussion on what it's like to do that type of material, and where the desire to connect with an audience can lead you!

Featuring comedy from Janice Messitte, who lost her husband two weeks after their wedding. Follow her on FB to find out where she's performing next!

Evan Williams lost his brother when he was 19, and his mother just a year later. Check him out online and follow him on twitter and instagram!

Frank Liotti, in addition to his many live performances around the city (which can be found at his website - ) also has a podcast of his own called FAT PIG, which he co-hosts with Jessica Kirson. Listen and subscribe here!

Follow him on Twitter @Frank_Liotti

Also, many thanks to Alex and the Staff at ZINC BAR for hosting us, and to Monica from Grandaisy Bakery for feeding us!

Aug 31, 2017

Here we go again!

In the second installment of a special 2 part episode, Jordon talks more about The Compassionate Friends LIVE from their 40th National Conference in Orlando Florida.

This episode features a couple brief interviews with both Tracy Milne Edgemon, as well as her mother, Bobbi Milne talking about their experiences at the conference, and how they differed this time around based on new circumstances.

Also featured is the key note speech from the Sunday closing ceremony of the conference, delivered by Jennifer Perez of the Miami chapter.

This episode is very focused on The Compassionate Friends, a self help support group for bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings. If you are looking for support, it is always available. Find a local meeting or online support today by going to The Compassionate Friends website and reaching out.


Aug 8, 2017

In this very special episode, Jordon interviews a number of people at the 40th Annual Compassionate Friends Conference in Orlando, FL.

Jordon follows up with a couple former podcast guests on their experiences at the national conference, Keith Singer (Episode 3) and Alan Pederson (Episode 14) as well as sits down for a more extended interview with Luci Abrahamson to talk about how much being a part of TCF, and a leader at the National Conferences has impacted her path towards healing herself and others.

This is part 1 of 2 Live From the Conference, and it's all leading up to the 50th Episode, which will be taped LIVE in front of an audience at Zinc Bar on August 27th!

Check out the event page on our FB page and get tickets now!

Use Promo Code RUSSELL when buying tickets, and they're FREE!

Jun 15, 2017

This episode was a long time coming! Jordon Sits down with comedian Michael Sommerville to talk about the journey he's been on since the death of his brother Paul in 1997. As a baby, Paul had to undergo brain surgery, the complications of which ultimately led to his death. Now, almost 20 years later Michael felt like it was time to talk about it.

We talk about the importance of following your own path, and the ways in which priorities shift after a significant loss. We also talk about how to appreciate the little things along the way.

Check out Michael online at

Also, be sure to check out his new webseries called How to (blank) a man!

May 31, 2017

In this episode, Jordon sits down with fellow podcaster and comedian Keith Price. Keith's mother suffered from alzheimer's disease as well as dementia later in her life, which ultimately took her life. Finally Keith would have the time to spend with his father and have the relationship that he always wanted with him. Except that his father died just 6 weeks later. Despite not having the time to really enjoy it, Keith did manage to make the most of his final days.

We talk about how important community is, and how having friends who let us be ourselves make the journey back into the light bearable. We also talk about how and why we laugh in tough moments, and how healing it can be to take a step back from the immediacy of a loss and point out the ridiculousness of the human experience.

Check out Keith's Podcast, KEITH PRICE'S CURTAIN CALL and revel in his love and experience with the NYC theater elite.


Feb 27, 2017

Chris Monty joins Jordon in the studio to talk about the loss of his mother, and about the ways in which he has managed to keep her in his life.

We talk about spirituality, and the line we walk between faith and WANTING to believe, as well as the real value of a dime.

As it happens, Chris' mother, along with both of her sisters were diagnosed with cancer, and survived their initial bouts, prompting them to create the Three Strohm Sisters Foundation, a non-profit that is dedicated to continuing the fight against cancer.

Learn more about the Three Strohm Sisters here!

Follow everything Chris Monty at his website,

Feb 13, 2017

Christian Finnegan has lost both of his brothers - his younger brother to heart failure at the age of 19 in 2001, and his older brother to a heart attack at 36 in 2008. In this episode we talk about how one's role within a family change after the death, and how difficult it can be to maintain an identity that is tied to a life that no longer exists.

We also talk about how to remember the full person that died, and not just an idealized version of who they were.

Follow Christian on Twitter @ChristFinnegan

Check him out online at

Dec 29, 2016

In this episode Jordon sits down with Grammy nominated musician Stephan Crump, who recently released an album called Rhombal as a response to the loss of his brother to cancer.

We talk about the importance of the sibling relationship, and the twists and turns they often take, and the power of forgiveness when all is said and done. We also talk about how music can represent so many different things.

The music itself is quite moving, and the track at the end of this episode is Pulling Pillars (Outro for Patty), the song that we discuss in our interview.

From Stephan Crump on what the album is about:

"Rhombal is not about sadness. much more, its a commemoration of a death well-confronted, of a spiritual evolution i witnessed in my brother during our last days together, and of how close we left each other after what had been, for many years, a very troubled relationship."

Follow Stephan on Twitter @Crumbletones

To find out more about the album go to Stephan's website here!

You can purchase the album Here (on stephans website)

or HERE via iTunes.

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