Where's The Grief?

Death is an inevitable part of life, and yet it can be difficult and uncomfortable to talk about the process of grief amongst one's peers. This podcast helps shine some light into the darkest parts of our own existence and encourage a more open discussion about the effects of grief, and offers coping mechanisms to those suffering.
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Where's the Grief?

A podcast focused on grief and loss hosted by Jordon Ferber

On the whole, many cultures do not teach us how to effectively deal with the feelings that come up when a loved one dies. 

The goal of this podcast is to acknowledge the reality of intense grief , which can be a very isolating experience, and normalize the conversation about it that is very often difficult to have with friends and even family.


Jordon Ferber, a bereaved sibling himself, gives people who have experienced intense loss permission to talk about it and exemplify the possibility of  making it through the darkest periods of grief to a life full of hope and happiness.


Feb 14, 2018

In this episode, I sat down with comedian Harris Stanton. Despite dealing with a number of losses, the greatest one was that of his friend and mentor Patrice. We talk about how to move on after losing one's guide, as well as how to carry the lessons we've learned forward with us.

Additionally, we touch briefly on the car accident that Harris was involved in that left Tracy Morgan and Ardie Fuqua in coma's and Jimmy Mack dead. Harris may have walked away with but a few scratches, but he also has vivid memories of the accident and it's aftermath that have stayed with him.

Check out what Harris is up to at

Get his album "Naive Innocence" from Itunes!

Jan 26, 2018

In this episode, Jordon sits down with one of his good friends from college, Kendra, who lost her brother Scott to suicide nearly 6 years ago, while Kendra herself was 7 months pregnant with her second child.

We talk about the difficulty of overcoming the stigma in talking about suicide and mental health, and the importance of understanding that depression is a disease that we ought to stop sweeping under the rug.

We also talk about the importance of gratitude, and how appreciating what we have in front of us can help gain a perspective on what we've been through.

Kendra hosts a yearly Fundraiser called "Stand Up for Scott" to raise money for the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention and the Ali Forney Center.

Jan 5, 2018

Happy New Year to everyone, I wish you all a happy, healthy and prosperous 2018 . . .

In this episode I sat down with Harriet Cabelly, author of the book, "Living Well Despite Adversity."

In her book, Harriet has compiled 36 separate interviews with people from all walks of life, each of whom has been dealt an otherwise unwinnable hand and turned it into a opportunity to serve as an example to others that we can always triumph over our situation with strong choices and unwavering followthrough.

We talk about the importance of acceptance, and giving ones self permission to feel, be it joy or despair.

Find out more about Harriet at her website Rebuild Life Now

Nov 11, 2017

Jordon sits down with voice over artist Bill Ratner, known for dozens of voices you've heard before on TV and radio, yet most famous (at least to Jordon) as the voice of Flint on the popular cartoon G.I. Joe.

Before finding success as an artist and a storyteller, Bill essentially became an orphan at an early age, losing his mother at 7, his brother at 13, and his father just 3 months after that.

For over 50 years, Bill has found ways to continually strive to bask in the light, driven by the loving and supportive environment he enjoyed for far too little time.

We talk about the helpful nature of various forms of therapy, and how our loved ones find ways to reach out and continue to be a force in our lives.

Follow Bill on Twitter @BillRatner

Check him out online and find out where you can see him live!

Oct 6, 2017

In this episode, Jordon sits down with comedian Doug Hildemann, who lost his wife Kelly a little over a year ago. We talk about how difficult it is to find places to work towards moving forward, while still carrying our past with us.

To find out more about where Doug is performing, check out his FB comedy page, entitled, "Not Doug Hildemann's Comedy Page or Anything."


Sep 15, 2017

Episode 50 is here!

I'm so excited that I made it to 50 episodes, and I commemorated it by recording this show LIVE at the Zinc Bar in the West Village in NYC!

I changed up the format of the show a little bit to showcase some of my favorite prior guests who actually have material in their acts about loss, followed by a panel discussion on what it's like to do that type of material, and where the desire to connect with an audience can lead you!

Featuring comedy from Janice Messitte, who lost her husband two weeks after their wedding. Follow her on FB to find out where she's performing next!

Evan Williams lost his brother when he was 19, and his mother just a year later. Check him out online and follow him on twitter and instagram!

Frank Liotti, in addition to his many live performances around the city (which can be found at his website - ) also has a podcast of his own called FAT PIG, which he co-hosts with Jessica Kirson. Listen and subscribe here!

Follow him on Twitter @Frank_Liotti

Also, many thanks to Alex and the Staff at ZINC BAR for hosting us, and to Monica from Grandaisy Bakery for feeding us!

Aug 31, 2017

Here we go again!

In the second installment of a special 2 part episode, Jordon talks more about The Compassionate Friends LIVE from their 40th National Conference in Orlando Florida.

This episode features a couple brief interviews with both Tracy Milne Edgemon, as well as her mother, Bobbi Milne talking about their experiences at the conference, and how they differed this time around based on new circumstances.

Also featured is the key note speech from the Sunday closing ceremony of the conference, delivered by Jennifer Perez of the Miami chapter.

This episode is very focused on The Compassionate Friends, a self help support group for bereaved parents, grandparents and siblings. If you are looking for support, it is always available. Find a local meeting or online support today by going to The Compassionate Friends website and reaching out.


Aug 8, 2017

In this very special episode, Jordon interviews a number of people at the 40th Annual Compassionate Friends Conference in Orlando, FL.

Jordon follows up with a couple former podcast guests on their experiences at the national conference, Keith Singer (Episode 3) and Alan Pederson (Episode 14) as well as sits down for a more extended interview with Luci Abrahamson to talk about how much being a part of TCF, and a leader at the National Conferences has impacted her path towards healing herself and others.

This is part 1 of 2 Live From the Conference, and it's all leading up to the 50th Episode, which will be taped LIVE in front of an audience at Zinc Bar on August 27th!

Check out the event page on our FB page and get tickets now!

Use Promo Code RUSSELL when buying tickets, and they're FREE!

Jun 15, 2017

This episode was a long time coming! Jordon Sits down with comedian Michael Sommerville to talk about the journey he's been on since the death of his brother Paul in 1997. As a baby, Paul had to undergo brain surgery, the complications of which ultimately led to his death. Now, almost 20 years later Michael felt like it was time to talk about it.

We talk about the importance of following your own path, and the ways in which priorities shift after a significant loss. We also talk about how to appreciate the little things along the way.

Check out Michael online at

Also, be sure to check out his new webseries called How to (blank) a man!

May 31, 2017

In this episode, Jordon sits down with fellow podcaster and comedian Keith Price. Keith's mother suffered from alzheimer's disease as well as dementia later in her life, which ultimately took her life. Finally Keith would have the time to spend with his father and have the relationship that he always wanted with him. Except that his father died just 6 weeks later. Despite not having the time to really enjoy it, Keith did manage to make the most of his final days.

We talk about how important community is, and how having friends who let us be ourselves make the journey back into the light bearable. We also talk about how and why we laugh in tough moments, and how healing it can be to take a step back from the immediacy of a loss and point out the ridiculousness of the human experience.

Check out Keith's Podcast, KEITH PRICE'S CURTAIN CALL and revel in his love and experience with the NYC theater elite.


Feb 27, 2017

Chris Monty joins Jordon in the studio to talk about the loss of his mother, and about the ways in which he has managed to keep her in his life.

We talk about spirituality, and the line we walk between faith and WANTING to believe, as well as the real value of a dime.

As it happens, Chris' mother, along with both of her sisters were diagnosed with cancer, and survived their initial bouts, prompting them to create the Three Strohm Sisters Foundation, a non-profit that is dedicated to continuing the fight against cancer.

Learn more about the Three Strohm Sisters here!

Follow everything Chris Monty at his website,

Feb 13, 2017

Christian Finnegan has lost both of his brothers - his younger brother to heart failure at the age of 19 in 2001, and his older brother to a heart attack at 36 in 2008. In this episode we talk about how one's role within a family change after the death, and how difficult it can be to maintain an identity that is tied to a life that no longer exists.

We also talk about how to remember the full person that died, and not just an idealized version of who they were.

Follow Christian on Twitter @ChristFinnegan

Check him out online at

Dec 29, 2016

In this episode Jordon sits down with Grammy nominated musician Stephan Crump, who recently released an album called Rhombal as a response to the loss of his brother to cancer.

We talk about the importance of the sibling relationship, and the twists and turns they often take, and the power of forgiveness when all is said and done. We also talk about how music can represent so many different things.

The music itself is quite moving, and the track at the end of this episode is Pulling Pillars (Outro for Patty), the song that we discuss in our interview.

From Stephan Crump on what the album is about:

"Rhombal is not about sadness. much more, its a commemoration of a death well-confronted, of a spiritual evolution i witnessed in my brother during our last days together, and of how close we left each other after what had been, for many years, a very troubled relationship."

Follow Stephan on Twitter @Crumbletones

To find out more about the album go to Stephan's website here!

You can purchase the album Here (on stephans website)

or HERE via iTunes.

Oct 31, 2016

In this episode, Jordon sits down with Author Robert Goor to talk about his recently published book, "Dear Andrew . . ."

Rob was an engineer in the robotics department of GE in 1988 when his 8 year old son Andrew was struck and killed by a truck right in front of him. In the ensuing aftermath, Rob struggled to maintain his relationship to Andrew, and began writing letters to him as a way of keeping his connection and allowing him a space to express his deepest emotions.

We talk about the importance of helping others can be, and about how impactful is is to share ones own story as a way of giving others hope.

Find out more about the book HERE


Sep 28, 2016

In this episode, Jordon sits down with comedian and actress Brandy Rowell!

Brandy lost her mother when she was 22 just after graduating college, and her father 7 years later, just as she was coming into her own as a performer and as a person.

We talk about the importance of community, and the need to connect with people who not just let you be yourself, but encourage the best of you to come out.

Sep 14, 2016

Eddie Brill is a comedian, actor and writer who has spent the better part of his life making people laugh. He is also no stranger to grief and loss. Eddie has lost a sister, a brother, his father and his step-father, as well as numerous friends and colleagues.

In addition to having spent 17 years as the warm up comedian (and eventually comedy talent coordinator) for the Late Show with David Letterman on CBS, he appeared on the 4th Annual Russell Ferber Foundation Comedy Fun!draiser, (I'm well aware that my families annual benefit show is not nearly on the same level as Letterman, but there are many fewer spots available.)

In this episode we talk about the accumulation of loss, and of love, and the notion that the show must go on.

Aug 15, 2016

In this episode, Jordon sits down with fellow Native NY’er, podcaster and comedian Chris Faga.

Chris’s mother died of a drug overdose when he was 16 years old, and his father died of a stroke only a few years later. We discuss how hard it is to lose your parents at such a young age, and how it can prepare you for other losses down the line.

We also talk about the death of his cousin Lisa, and how important it is to remember and share the funny stories of those who have passed.

Check out Chris’s podcast High Society Radio at

Follow Chris on Twitter @HSRadioShow

Aug 11, 2016

Oh Boy!

Well, after a much needed break, I am back.

In this episode I explain myself and my absence, and hopefully also share a few stories you may relate or connect to.

Please "like" the FB page for the show and you'll always know whats going on!


Jun 3, 2016

In this episode Jordon sits down with his good friend Joey Richardson, a comedian and musician, who wrote the theme song for this podcast.

Joey's sister Lisa died of a brain tumor almost 10 years ago now, and he has since  struggled to make sense of his artistic identity along with his personal identity.

Some of the things we discuss in this episode are survivors guilt, sibling rivalry, and the power of denial as a coping mechanism.

Check out Joey's web series Gustavo and Friends at

Also check out his other video's at

May 16, 2016

In this episode, Jordon turns the tables on Dr. Heidi Horsley, who has interviewed Jordon on both her Radio and TV shows several times.

Dr. Heidi Horsley is an internationally known grief expert, licensed psychologist, social worker and bereaved sibling.  She co-hosts the award winning television series and radio show, Open to Hope.  She is an Adjunct Professor at Columbia University and in private practice in Manhattan.  Dr. Heidi speaks throughout the country, on finding hope following trauma and tragedy.


Find out more about Heidi and all the good work she does at

Follow her on twitter

Mar 29, 2016

In this episode, Jordon sits down with author and sibling grief expert Elizabeth Devita Raeburn. Elizabeth was just 14 years old when her brother Ted died of aplastic anemia, a severe immune deficiency disorder. Many years later, Elizabeth wrote the book that she needed to read -The Empty Room: Surviving the Loss of a Brother or Sister at Any Age.

I have talked at length about Elizabeths book on several episodes of this podcast, and I recommend it to anyone who is dealing with sibling loss.

Her new book, The Death of Cancer is out now as well.

Check out her Amazon authors page to purchase either book!

Learn more about Elizabeth at

Mar 17, 2016

In this episode, Jordon talks with Comedian Ken Krantz, who recently lost his good friend Mandy to cancer. Ken reflects on his friendship with Amanda and her family, as he continues to process the loss after only finding out that she was sick days before her funeral.

We also discuss the power of doing truthful dark material, and how difficult it is even for those who are among the best at it.

Ken helped create a fund to help others with cancer afford their medical expenses, and he produced a comedy benefit show that he hopes to continue annually. Stay up to date by going to Take a Deep Breath and Laugh in Memory of Amanda B. Plawner


Follow Ken on Twitter @KidKrantz


Feb 29, 2016

Jordon and Harmony have been friends for nearly 10 years, having met at their local Compassionate Friends sibling group shortly after the death of Harmony's sister Hannah. Having just finished a recent run of her One-Woman-Musical "Afraid of Karma," Harmony reflects on the impact of doing the show, and what she's learned in the 10 years since her sisters death.

Find out more about her show at


Follow her on Twitter @HarmonyJupiter1

Jan 8, 2016

In this Episode, Jordon sits down to talk with Comedian, Musician and Professional Poker Player Clayton Fletcher!

Clayton's father Ashton Fletcher, himself a well known and respected pillar of the Jazz community passed away 7 months ago, leaving behind a family that, although deep in grief, is also bolstered by having had such a magnanimous and joyful leader for so long.

We talk a lot about the structure of comedy, and how important it is to be present in one's life, regardless of the twists and turns that it takes, and to always be full of gratitude for the things that we have had.

Follow Clayton on Twitter @ClaytonComic

Find out more about the Ashton Fletcher Scholarship fund and when the next benefit show is at

Jan 8, 2016

Happy 2016! In the same way that episode Zero was an introduction to the podcast, this interlude episode is just a year end review of the work I've done thus far, and an eye towards the future.

Thanks everyone for listening, and for continuing to help me expand my audience.

Follow me on Twitter @WheresTheGrief


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